2019: A Year of Presence

In today’s world of social media and constant distraction, it’s easy to just float through a day without ever being present. But the question is, what does it mean to be present? First, let me back up.

I started the beginning stages of this journey in 2018. My goals in 2018, without me realizing it, were the beginning stages of the process of presence. Continue reading >

What I’ve learned in 10 years as an employee

I graduated college in 2008 and started my first “real” job quickly thereafter. That means June/July of 2018 I’ve worked in my career path for 10 years. I think back on the first job I took and all sorts of feelings come rushing back. I was moving to a new city, where I ended up “living” in a hotel, then temporary living space, then finally an apartment…. only to move back to OKC 9 months later. That first day on the job was little weird. Excitement, fear, and so many emotions in between.  I stressed myself out so much I spent a lot of our first day training outside the training room.

As I look back at that first year on the job I wasn’t particularly confident in my job, but I look back now and know I had no clue exactly how much I didn’t know. The perspective of 10 years means I realize how much more I still have to learn, though I’ll admit I can still sometimes be a know-it-all. As I think of these first 10 years and think to the next 10, it seems with the passage of time we know less and less. I think that’s probably the unofficial definition of wisdom… thinking you know less but really knowing the most. Continue reading >

Why I plan to read less in 2018

I always perform better with a goal, so for the past couple years I’ve set a reading goal. In 2013, I read 28 books. 2014: 43. 2015: 48. 2016: 70. Every year, I tried to set the bar higher to challenge myself even more. At the beginning of 2017, I’d already decided I wanted to read less because, well, life… In 2016 we purchased a house with my parents to flip (using this term loosely) and a new fixer upper for ourselves. I knew I couldn’t healthily stretch my reading any further, so I set my goal at 60 books for the year. Despite the foresight of adjusting the goal, I’m not even going to come close that. Normally this would mean stressing out about this arbitrary number and frantically trying to reach it. But not this year… I’ve realized reading less was a good thing.

My reading has gone up and up over the years, and I regularly consume more articles than almost anyone I know. It became a joke between me and Samantha that every time she brought up something she’d found online, I’d already seen it. For 3-4 years in a row, I was also a top consumer (meaning top 1-2% on the whole site) on Pocket which is a place to save articles for later reading. I’ve been in a ferocious consumption phase where I’m always striving to learn, and I’ve really enjoyed pushing myself to consume. There isn’t anything wrong with that, but at some point I realized I’d gotten off track. Continue reading >