The Power of Speaking Up

I’m reading the book Eat Move Sleep by Tom Rath. In Chapter 9 of the book, Tom Rath talks about the effect other people have on us when eating out. He says to always order first when you dine out. The first order anchors (relying too heavily on the first piece of information you receive) the table. Research has shown that the first person to order sets the anchor for the rest of the table. If that person orders healthy, there is some sort of guilt associated with the others ordering healthy as well. If that person orders “fattening” foods, everyone else feels the freedom to do the same.

I cannot say I’ve noticed this other than in drink orders. If everyone before me orders water, I’m hesitant to order a coke. I don’t want to be “the one” who is going for broke. Continue reading >

3 Ways to Positively Impact Others

I was reading a Buffer article on interacting on Twitter. The writer Ashley Read, recalls a story about a writer reaching out to him and the impact it had. The take away: human connections matter.

This is hard for me, because I am mainly an introvert. But even I have to admit that personal interactions affect me. The past few days/weeks on Twitter have proven this fact. From going to #storylineconf, to being followed by Michael Hyatt and Preston Sprinkle, I’ve realized I crave attention. Not in a self-centered way, but in a way that focuses on meaningful interactions. Continue reading >

My Wife

My wife is amazing. I struggle with words most times, but she’s a natural. She wrote this wonderful post about us newbies at marriage(because 3 years isn’t long).

Now, this stuff is completely out of my arena. I don’t feel emotions well. I also don’t remember well. My wife has become my memory. So many childhood memories have faded away, but none of my marriage memories will fade. Why is that? Because I have her to remember for me. I also poke fun at her and joke that she’s making the conversations or memories up, but I know she isn’t. Continue reading >